Go Back   Melanie Rawn > Other Topics > General Discussion
Register FAQ Members List Calendar Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Reply
 
Thread Tools Rate Thread Display Modes
Old 03-19-2012, 09:27 PM   #151
Member
 

LadyDragon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 36
Tsk tsk. Judging.

TEACHERS NEED LOVE TOOOO MAN!!!

And that was my wonderful contribution to the conversation at hand. Carry on. This was your pointless and tasteless sarcasm patrol.
LadyDragon is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-2012, 09:42 PM   #152
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2009
Location: Hervey Bay , Australia
Posts: 1,050
That might earn you another infraction Dragon!!!

Seriously, the only way the kids will find out is through their parents. Unfortunately, some parents dont make sure their kids are out of ear shot before gossiping.
christroybels is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-19-2012, 09:45 PM   #153
Prophetess
 

Lady B's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Western, USA
Posts: 6,443
Or they may let their kids watch the newscasts.

Quote:
Originally Posted by LadyDragon View Post
Tsk tsk. Judging.

TEACHERS NEED LOVE TOOOO MAN!!!
And don't I know it! happy Mr. B is coming home for Easter, handy that Lent ends that weekend!

No seriously, I can see how the sex tape could bite him in the a$_. How do they know she wasn't a student at the time, or something like that.
__________________
Research

Last edited by Lady B : 03-19-2012 at 09:49 PM.
Lady B is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-20-2012, 09:32 PM   #154
Member
 

LadyDragon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 36
Haha bring on the infractions!

And I don't see how you can consider "giving up something for lent" when you're unable to have it to begin with. Isn't the point sacrificing? Pfffft. you're workin' the loopholes.

Hmmm. sex tapes, etc...hard to prove, with the ability to edit even the metadata of files in this day and age. So it's hard to say. Unfortunately there are sick freaks out there either way it goes. The one thing that concerns ME, is for instance, laws that are getting enacted out of panic. I have one right now in front of my state legislature regarding child porn, etc.

I have no problem throwing the book at offenders; especially teachers and such being in such a position of authority. But, for instance this law, states anyone caught with what is considered "child erotica" which is "posing but not nude children in photos" that can turn someone on. Um ok. one, who judges this? two, if I take a photo of my kid, and someone else considers it "provocative"...next thing I know they're raiding my home and taking all my gear and gadgets. Or, say a newborn photographer takes photos of a child all cutesy and nekkid, but someone considers it "erotic"...where is the line?

I can certainly understand people, government, and parents (now that I'm a new one although an unorthodox one now) wanting to protect them. But I think it's starting to get WAY too much into nanny state form.
LadyDragon is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-20-2012, 09:42 PM   #155
Call me Lucy!
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posts: 1,209
Speaking of nanny state - STAY AWAY FROM CINNAMON! It is deadly! It will kill you! It is evil!!!!! It's in the school yards! It's in the pantry! It's EVERYWHERE!

http://health.ninemsn.com.au/healthn...e-choking-risk
ltngu6 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 03-20-2012, 09:45 PM   #156
Member
 

LadyDragon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 36
Sooooooooooooo. I'm NOT supposed to give this to my three month old? sigh. Lemme throw this spoon of cinnamon away. I thought it would be fun...
LadyDragon is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-09-2012, 02:03 PM   #157
Senior Member
 
Join Date: May 2007
Location: Utah
Posts: 952
Just when you thought the world was safe from idiots! We used to pour powdered jello into our hands and lick it but all that caused was cavaties and red or blue sticky circles on our palms.

Bren, I think you did the right thing. I am a big believer in truth and letting the kids see the consequences of bad decisions. Sometimes we do learn from others mistakes and I think we protect our kids way too much from suffering their own consequences and that it doesn't do them any favors. On another note, I don't believe in providing them gratuitous information either. I judge how much information to give by how in depth the questions asked. ie I don't jump immediately to describing sexual intercourse when asked where babies come from, I start simple and get more detailed as the questions become more mature. I do think it is important that children (eventually) learn about human sexuality so that they can understand that everyone deals with learning to have control over thoughts and actions and understand all the consequences. One of the problems we see in a religious community is that we lose our children when they don't have enough information and tools to deal with issues that may be taboo or that parents are afraid to address. They need to understand that everyone deals with this and that they are not unusual or bad for having a sexual (human) nature.

I am also saying that it isn't wrong to tell him what the teacher did, it just may not be the right time to have that conversation.

Last edited by cellogirl : 04-09-2012 at 02:06 PM.
cellogirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-09-2012, 06:56 PM   #158
Prophetess
 

Lady B's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Western, USA
Posts: 6,443
Thanks Cello-Mama. I felt it was the best possible course of action. Unfortunately, he heard why the teacher was arrested at school, so we had a chance to discuss it a bit. I still feel bad about that situation. He really was a great teacher.
__________________
Research
Lady B is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-10-2012, 10:30 AM   #159
Prophetess
 

Lady B's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Western, USA
Posts: 6,443
Okay, here's my current quandary. I've noticed Taigen is the kind of kid who likes to get bullies in trouble. When he identifies a bigger, older kid as a bully and will push the kid's buttons, and harasss him until he provokes a response, and then he goes crying to adults, getting the 'bully' in trouble. Does this make him a reverse bully?

Anyway, we live near a school yard, and one evening, Adric comes home gloating because he harasses some older kids into chasing him, and then ran home, laughing.

I'm very concerned about it, and when it comes up, I usually find myself speechless. I taught them to be kind and respectful but, this? Sooner or later, they are going to come across someone with the ability to take them down a notch or two, and who knows how that will turn out.

Note, there are no 'bullies' in their lives right now, as Taigen is in the top grade of his elementary school, and Adric is generally a delightful kid, does not seem to attract that kind of attention.
__________________
Research
Lady B is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-09-2012, 10:05 PM   #160
Junior Member
 

whywaitanymore's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2012
Posts: 6
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lady B View Post
Okay, here's my current quandary. I've noticed Taigen is the kind of kid who likes to get bullies in trouble. When he identifies a bigger, older kid as a bully and will push the kid's buttons, and harasss him until he provokes a response, and then he goes crying to adults, getting the 'bully' in trouble. Does this make him a reverse bully?

Anyway, we live near a school yard, and one evening, Adric comes home gloating because he harasses some older kids into chasing him, and then ran home, laughing.

I'm very concerned about it, and when it comes up, I usually find myself speechless. I taught them to be kind and respectful but, this? Sooner or later, they are going to come across someone with the ability to take them down a notch or two, and who knows how that will turn out.

Note, there are no 'bullies' in their lives right now, as Taigen is in the top grade of his elementary school, and Adric is generally a delightful kid, does not seem to attract that kind of attention.
Truthfully, you have to discuss with the children why they are acting out in this way. What is prompting them to antagonize someone? Perhaps they are doing it for the thrill of being in some small amount of danger. I would also discuss with them if they know what the consequences of their behavior could be. I have had something similar happen with my children, and they said that they were doing it because of other kids in their school exhibiting this type of behavior.
There is a lot of media right now about the impact of bullies. Children might be picking up on this and using it as a tool to get at the other children in their lives that they do not like. It is rather manipulative, but it is not beyond the capabilities of a child to devise such a ploy.
whywaitanymore is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-12-2012, 09:25 PM   #161
Prophetess
 

Lady B's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Western, USA
Posts: 6,443
You're right. It's an issue I've been ignoring. Need to put on my big girl panties and... Never liked those big girl panties.
__________________
Research
Lady B is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 05-13-2012, 09:45 PM   #162
Call me Lucy!
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Melbourne, Australia
Posts: 1,209
That is such juvenile, acceptable behaviour! Getting people into trouble on purpose ... *turns back to the road and points hair dryer at speeding cars*


Seriously though, it is a bit worrying and perhaps you could approach it from a different perspective. Rather than worrying that they'll get hurt or upset the wrong person, I would be asking them to think how this impacts their personality in the long run.

Some movies that I see seem to encourage that kind of behaviour, where the mean kid gets in trouble and everyone stands around and laughs, and the kid that was picked on throughout the whole movie ends up being the hero.

I would be trying to find examples where baddies end up being goodies, or even where goodies trying to catch out baddies end up being consumed by it, or their personalities are changed in a bad way.

The only example I can think of is Mean Girls, but not sure how you would get them to sit through that!! Maybe some old school Brady Bunch (I've been watching that a lot on our new digital channels. That, and Love Boat!!)
ltngu6 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-16-2013, 05:19 PM   #163
Prophetess
 

Lady B's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Western, USA
Posts: 6,443
It's happened. My eldest son (age twelve) has reached that point in life when his friends are introducing him to music (and such) that do not meet my expectations. Frankly, I don't like it. there's this song that's all about the singer tearing people down in destructive, abusive (not to mention inappropriate) ways and he plays it far more than I would like. Now that he has a kindle, he has the ability to play it whenever!

Soooo... I am very interested in suggestions of how to navigate this path successfully!

Anyone?
__________________
Research
Lady B is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-16-2013, 06:59 PM   #164
Fox Spirit
 

Mikostar's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2002
Posts: 4,535
Take away his Kindle I trust you got it for him. Introduce him to Christian music. Always peaceful and soothing to the soul. Even if you are not a Christian at least you won't ever hear abusive words, how you can kill your parents (seriously there are songs like that)

Heavy metal punk rock is just not my style of music. Especially dark ones they are violent and not soothing at all! If you like it that's fine. I don't and though I do listen to songs that aren't Christian but my taste in music has changed. Plus there are lots of inspiring and uplifting tunes. Good rhythm my favorite songs at the moment is God of my Days. Another is Worshipping You. And Mighty to Save. Now you don't have to make him listen to these if you don't want to. An atheist probably wouldn't exactly like it.
__________________
Foxes are cute and furry and are mischevious, fox spirits can invade the souls of humans, and are equally mischevious.

Even if you fall flat on your face, at least you are moving forward! =P
Mikostar is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-16-2013, 08:13 PM   #165
Prophetess
 

Lady B's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Location: Western, USA
Posts: 6,443
Oh believe me, he's been raised on artists like Michael W. Smith. But he's in 6th grade now, the world of new influences is opening up and I've got to figure out how to address it with respect to his curiosity and sense of exploration, and without being heavy handed. Taking away his kindle would set us at loggerheads and really not solve anything.

For right now, whenever I hear that particular song, I tell him I don't like it, please listen to it in your room with the door shut. He just tried out another rap song, and although I won't 'enjoy' it, per say, but at least it is positive. "Stay the he** away from drugs cuz they're not legal"
__________________
Research
Lady B is offline   Reply With Quote
Go Back   Melanie Rawn > Other Topics > General Discussion
Reply


Thread Tools
Display Modes Rate This Thread
Rate This Thread:

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

vB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Forum Jump

SUPPORT THIS SITE
This site is run and managed by fans for fans of Melanie Rawn, and out of our own pockets. Please support this site by making your purchases at Amazon through the box to the right. Search:
Keywords:
In Association with Amazon.com

Or please consider donating!


All times are GMT -6. The time now is 02:24 AM.

Donate towards our web hosting bill!

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.6.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
EXILES: The Melanie Rawn Web Site, Copyrght (c) 1996-2006 Melanie Rawn, Irena Pereira